Jennifer Bankhead, a parent in the program, spoke during the luncheon about her struggles with addiction and how MountainStar supported her to be a better parent to her son Anthony, an adorable two year old. Jennifer started using meth when she was 12 years old. She had no healthy adult role models. She lived in rough neighborhoods and got involved with a gang. Jennifer had three kids by the time she was sixteen, and her addiction resulted in her losing the right to parent her children. Jennifer stated that she felt like she was worthless and a threat to society.
Three years ago Jennifer was able to get clean and sober. She was pregnant with Anthony when she was referred to MountainStar. Jennifer says that, “During the time I have been involved with MountainStar I have maintained a job, I was never employable before.” Jennifer is able to drive legally for the first time in years and now has a car. She knew that if she relapsed Anthony would be lost to her just as her other children were. She continues to be motivated and has been successful in parenting her son. She credits the therapeutic classes that Anthony attends and the home visiting program that helps her understand what Anthony needs, and for giving her the support she needs to stay clean and sober.
Jennifer Daniels also attended the luncheon. She has had two children go through the therapeutic program at MountainStar. Two years ago Jennifer relapsed and her children were put into foster care. Jennifer entered a drug court program and had her children returned to her within six months. The average stay in foster care for a child in Oregon is 10 months. Jennifer credits MountainStar’s support for being able to do the work to get her children returned quickly. She says that MountainStar saved her life. She has a better understanding of how stress can impact a child’s development and believes that the consistency of the therapeutic classroom for her son Matthew, who was one at the time, helped him through the chaotic events during her relapse and the subsequent stress of the separation from her.
According to Executive Director, Tim Rusk, “The only family that really matters to a baby, is the family that shows up.” He asked luncheon participants to “….Imagine yourselves as an infant that would qualify for services at MountainStar. If your parents are distracted, stressed and lack the skill and motivation to care for you – then so be it. If you have scary adults in your life - people who are neglectful, under the influence of drugs and alcohol, or prone to violent outbursts– then that is your reality.” Relief Nurseries have a proven track record of protecting babies during a critical time in their development. The program targets parents and children and works on attachment. Attachment is a proven protective factor against child abuse and neglect.
Although the luncheon was a success MountainStar still needs to raise money in order to ensure all of its programs for children and families continue. Our services are more critical at this time than ever before. If you can help by making a tax deductable contribution or volunteering your time please contact MountainStar Family Relief Nursery at 541-322-6820 or
2125 NE Daggett Lane Bend, OR 97701.
